My husband I both officiate for non-denominational weddings. It is a true joy to be able craft a ceremony that has special meaning that comes from the depths of a couple's hearts filled with love. It can reflect their personalities, idiosyncrasies, special moments in their courtship, their hope of building a beautiful future together and so much more.
One thing I can say is that, almost without fail is that when we first ask questions at the initial consultation, they will say something along the lines of "I guess we never thought of that!" It can pertain to whether or not they want to repeat the vows to each other or just want to say "I do". Sometimes it's when we bring up what the issue of what they would like us to wear. We explain that we don't want to clash in the pictures, or appear overdressed or underdressed for the type of wedding they wish to have regardless of whether it is a themed wedding or not.
Here is the big surprise! The one thing that seems to get the longest pause is when we ask them how they would like to be introduced after they are pronounced husband and wife. They usually look at each other with a puzzled or awkward glance. Perhaps this is when reality hits them and the bride seems to feel like she has to make a final decision on whether she is keeping her name or not. We will generally list a few options for introducing them as husband and wife to all of the guests at their wedding.
Just a few examples that might be added after stating, "It is my pleasure to introduce to you for the first time as husband and wife...
Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith
Michael and Michelle Smith
Michael and Michelle
Michael Smith and Michelle Jones
Michael Smith and Michelle Jones-Smith
The best part is seeing the looks on their faces as I pronounce them as husband and wife. It's that once in a lifetime moment that gets me every time! What an honor and privilege it is to be able share this moment. It brings a smile to my face every time, but then again, I'm smiling all the way to the wedding just thinking about the couple and being so happy for them! No kidding!
Yes, I must say, I love officiating weddings! I do, I do!
Wishing you the Greatest of Days!
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