Tips to Get You through the Wedding Ceremony!
Clients will relate various fears or concerns that they have during a consultation for officiating their wedding ceremony.
You might relate to some of these issues, but never fear! Your officiant should help you with any of these fears. Here are some things to remember that can take the edge off of the nervousness.
1. I don't like to be the center of attention! I get really nervous speaking in front of people and I don't want to say any more than I have to. What if someone makes a stupid remark during the ceremony?
You are likely in front of the most people who love and care about you more than any other day of your life. Even the people who might have made it rough on you during the planning stages will get into the moment and might even shed a tear or two. They will probably treat you better than during the planning because they want to save face! As far as unwanted remarks, your officiant should be professional and not let anyone else steal from your moment. An officiant can put themselves in a position of authority just enough to stop the comments depending upon the severity of the comments.
Rehearsals take longer than ceremonies for good reason. They are designed to make everyone comfortable with what they are supposed to do on the wedding day. This is the time to make minor ceremony changes, not later! Use the rehearsal to familiarize yourself with the environment and ask questions. Put other members of the bridal party in charge for your wedding day of letting those who weren't able to attend the rehearsal to on what to do. This would include how everyone who will be standing up with you is supposed to walk in, line up, and walk out before during and after the ceremony.
A little bit of nervousness is good!
The most important thing to tell yourself, is that something would be wrong and you might not be taking your marriage seriously enough if you aren't just a little bit nervous.
A nice deep breath when you begin to feel anxious. Remember that excitement can give you an adrenaline rush and that's okay. Cherish every moment of your entire day and have it etched in your memory.
2. I just know I'm going to cry, but what if I can't stop laughing either? If he/she starts crying I know I will, too!
Crying and Laughing Your officiant should be prepared for tears and provide tissues to give to you and even a member or two of your wedding party. Nobody will think less of you for crying. Laughter is the best medicine. It also makes your guests relax. Granted, it might be unplanned humor, but laughing at yourself will help you relax rather than wanting everything to be perfect. The best part is that those moments become some of your most cherished memories. Remember that crying and laughing are normal and chemically their effects are very similar. They are healthy!
3. What if I pass out?
An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. If you plan on drinking a lot after the rehearsal, you might want to reconsider that decision. It's not usually the heat or nervousness that leads to this particular problem. Stay hydrated and remember that alcoholic beverages do just the opposite.
Wishing you the greatest of days!