"Now Where Did That Come From?"
I've promised to give tips, trends and tools for weddings and other events. I've been thinking that maybe I should add to that list, traditions. Isn't that really where a lot of the conflicts come in when planning a wedding? I'm not speaking to cultural traditions though those can be huge, but at least you know where they are coming from. I'm speaking to those traditions or mindsets that people have that show up when a bride is planning a wedding. Odds are they can't even tell you why they are so insistent on these issues! Here are a few.
"On our side of the family we do___"
"Why are you doing that?"
"What? You're not doing ____!"
"That's interesting!" (We know that means a thumbs down)
"What would your ____ think!"
These tidbits are just small sampling of the little darts that get tossed toward a bride planning a wedding. Can you feel the pressure building? Do you think she's going to eventually react or hold some resentment along with a smile? More than likely. Weddings are by far the most emotionally charged occasion considering that they are supposed to be happy.
I hate to break it to people, but how things go through this process, might be just a glimpse into your future. So consider it as part of a learning curve. Chances are things will calm down until the next major step comes along. In your younger years as you enter marriage, you just have to expect the next round. Oh, that could be so pleasant, too.
"When are you going to have kids?"
"You're only having one?"
"You've got a ___ when are you going to try for a ___?"
"You're going to have how many?!"
I would suggest rather than swallowing a bitter pill, go for the best medicine ever made and make sure you get addicted to it! It is that wonderful medicine called laughter! Things get better! No one pressures you that much to retire or break a hip. So look on the bright side!
Wishing you the greatest of days!