Balancing Money and Time to Plan Your Wedding
1. Truth #1.
The reason why weddings seem so expensive is because there are so many moving parts and elements that need to be put together. They all cost money.
We all excel at different things and absolutely can't stand other types of chores, jobs, duties, etc. The same goes for planning a wedding. Why spend your valuable time on something you hate. I know that with the DIY craze, it would be easy to fall into that trap that gets bigger and bigger. The trap that comes from saying, "I can do that myself!" Yes, maybe you can, but do you love doing it? If not you're likely to add unnecessary stress.
2. Rephrase your stress points.
If you catch yourself saying, "I need to do this" or "I need to do that", rephrase it to "it would be preferable if I did this or that". Surprisingly, it lowers the priority a little or even makes you think it's not necessary to do the "this or that" at all.
3. It's okay to let go!
I've read somewhere that the average (usually a bride) spends the equivalent of 7-1/2 weeks of 40-hour work weeks planning a wedding. That is a lot of time and energy. It takes some of us longer than others to realize that it's okay to hire some things out and realize we can't possibly come close to being as talented as the professionals in all of the categories we need.
4. Time Management and Planning.
The things that couples don't realize when they are planning a wedding is that a lot of the DIY projects take place very close to the wedding. Especially the flowers, making your own cake, etc! Regarding the flowers, it doesn't matter whether they are of the "wear and carry" or "decor" categories..they take up time when you least have it. That's not even including the tasks that people procrastinate on, constant interruptions and all the mini celebrations that are taking place at that time.
5. You only get married once. Ideally!
If it's difficult for you to think about hiring tasks out, think again. You wouldn't expect to be able to put braces on your teeth by yourself. We hope we only get married once so you shouldn't have to justify handing out some headaches.
6. Invest where it counts. Determine your "dreads!"
You can hire people to do everything from addressing your invitations, keeping track of RSVP's, cleaning up after the wedding, childcare on site at your wedding, theft protection with coat-check companies who will guard your gifts and your guests' possessions.
My biggest suggestion would be to hire a "Day-of Coordinator". (there really is no such thing which is to your advantage). A "Day-of Coordinator" actually does most of what a Wedding Planner does except find vendors for you. You will want to look for one who will contact all of your vendors, verify your contracts to see if your plan actually matches what is in the contract, will tour your venue, conduct a rehearsal (might cost extra) and do their best to inhibit behavior from anyone that could risk you not getting your deposit back. They will create a realistic timeline so that they day flows smoothly since they know the wedding industry and what the vendors need to do a good job for you.
Wishing you the greatest of days!
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